「自分は〇〇な人間なんだ」という”嘘”

恋愛・コミュニケーション

昨日、こんなツイートしました。

Twitterだと140字しか書けないので
「苦手」のセルフイメージについて書きましたが、
苦手のほとんどが錯覚であるように、
他にもいろんな錯覚があります。

ちょっぴり過激な言葉にすると”嘘”です。

たとえば、「自分は人前で話すのが苦手な人間だ」
「自分はゴーヤが嫌いだ」みたいなものたち。

こういうのって、嘘なんですよ。
 

と、こんなこと書いといてアレですが、
ちなみに僕ゴーヤ好きじゃないです。笑

沖縄料理のお店に行ったときコースで出てきたんですが、
苦すぎて目ん玉飛び出そうになりました。

出されたものは残さない主義なので、
他と野菜と一緒に食べてなんとか完食しましたが、
正直、もうお会いしたくないと思ってます。苦笑
 

でも、それも嘘だと思ってます。

僕はゴーヤが嫌いなんじゃなくて、
=================
”今は”ゴーヤのことを不味いと感じる
パラダイムを採用している

=================
ってだけなんですね。

※パラダイムは、考え方の枠組みって意味です。
 

この「採用してる」って感覚が大事で、
採用してるってことは不採用にもできるわけです。

これを僕が一番感じたのは、
はじめて人前で2時間のセミナーをしたとき。
 

そのとき、僕は「人前で話すのが苦手」
と思ってました。

小学生と中学生の頃は、
「授業中に手を挙げない人は成績業で5が取れない」
という謎のシステムがあったおかげで、
人に注目されて話すのが苦手だと思ってた僕は
1年間で1度も手を挙げませんでした。

結果、テストの点数がどれだけ良くても
成績表ではまったく5を取れずずっと4でした。
 

そんな状態で生きてきたので、
「人前で話すのが苦手」というセルフイメージが
しっかり根を張って固まっていたんですよ。

ですが、今みたいな活動をしてくと決めてからは、
どう考えても「人前で話す」はできた方がいいです。

なので、思い切って、
今まで人前で10分も話したことないのに、
2時間のセミナーを開いてみることにしたんです。
 

めちゃくちゃ緊張したの覚えてます。
だって、人生でそんなに話したことないんですから。

さて、実際どうだったのか?

なんと、しっかり準備したこともあってか
意外と話せたんですね。

このとき、僕にパラダイムシフトが起きました。
 

それまで「人前で話すのが苦手」
というパラダイムを採用して生きてきましたが、
そのパラダイムが不採用になり、
新しいパラダイムが採用になったんです。
(パラダイムパラダイム言い過ぎぃ!笑)

それからは、「人前でも話せる」
というパラダイムを採用しています。

そしたら、今まで出来ないと思ってたことが
出来るようになるパラダイスが待ってました。

そう、パラダイムが変わればパラダイスなんです。
(↑やかましいわ)
 

あなたも、昔嫌いだった食べ物とか飲み物が
いつの間にかすんなり食べれるようになった。
って経験ありませんか?

これも同じです。

僕は20歳なりたての頃は
ビールなんてまったく美味しいと思いませんでした。
(ビールは美味しくない、と感じるパラダイムを採用してた)

まだ「めっちゃ美味しい!」とまでは思えないんですが、
前よりは美味しく感じることも増えてきました。
(ちょっと美味しい、と感じるパラダイムの採用)
 

そのためにやったことは、
「ビールは不味いものだ」と決め付けないで、
これを美味しいって言う人がいるんだから
自分にもそう思えるようになる可能性があるはず。

という思いで、一時的にでも
「ビールは美味しいもの」というパラダイムを採用してみて、
どういうところが美味しいだろう?を考えてみる。

っていうのをやってました。

そしたら、少しずつパラダイムシフトしてきたんです。
 

この「採用・不採用」の感覚、
すっごく大事です。

自分のセルフイメージ上げるための重要ポイント。

あなたが今持ってるセルフイメージを
「今はこれを採用してるんだ」で捉えれば、
だいぶ景色が違ってくるはず。

では、今回はこの辺で〜!

 

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