【学生向け】もう周りにグループできてる中で友達つくるには?

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どうも、小野田(かろりぃ)です。

新しいクラス、新しい学校、
そんな新しい環境になってもうすぐ2ヶ月。

会社なら、上司が気遣って話しかけてくれますし
1時間ごとに休憩があるわけじゃないので
そこまで孤独感はないと思いますが、
「学校」だとそうはいきません。

授業が終われば、みんな一斉に喋り出して
瞬く間にグループごとに円がつくられていきます。

すると、新しいクラスで友達と離れてしまってたり、
他県から学校に来たり、友達とは違う進学先に来ていたら、
4月のスタートダッシュに乗り遅れると
そのグループに入るチャンスは一気に減ります。

大学生だと、入学前の歓迎会に行ったか行ってないかでも
スタートダッシュが大きく変わってきます。

スタートダッシュというと、
マリオカートシリーズのスタートダッシュの
タイミングがいまだによく分かってないので、
いつもスタート出遅れしちゃいます。

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ですが、ベストタイムを競うような
ハイレベルなレースじゃない限り、
スタートダッシュできるかどうかなんて
大した問題ではありません。
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後からいくらでも取り返せます。

それは学校も同じ。

スタート出遅れしたって大丈夫。

「じゃあ、どうすれば周りにグループできてる中で
友達つくればいいの?」

これは、発想を換えればいいんです。

ところで、
”グループ”というのは、もはや1つの生命体です。
その中にいる1人1人の人格とは別の生き物。

====================
”1人の人間”としてなら素直に受け入れ
誠実に対応するようなことでも、
”グループの一員”としてだと
真逆の対応をしたりする
のです。
====================

そういう意味で、
「”グループ”というのは1つの生命体」なのです。

ですから、「グループの中に入ろうとする」
というのはベリーハード。超難しい。

そうではなく。

================
誰か1人を見つけて、
まずはその人と話せるようになる。
================

いつもはグループで行動してる人でも、
席が決まっている授業中は1人です。

そのときを狙って、話しかける。

誰か1人でいいんです。

どのグループに入ろうかな?
と考えると難しいんですが、
誰か1人と話せるようになるくらいなら
遥かに難易度は下がります。

で、そうやって誰か1人と話せるようになって、
すれ違うときに挨拶したり
次の授業の小テストの話をしたりする内に、
自然とその人が所属するグループの人達とも
話す機会が出てきます。

そうなれば、いつの間にか
そのグループの一員になっていくのです。

さらに、そのグループのメンバーの中には
他のグループと接点のある人もいるでしょう。
すると、他のグループとも話す機会が出てきます。

そんな風に派生して話せる人は増えていくのです。

とはいえ、結果的にそうなっていくだけで、
最初からそこを考える必要はありません。

まずは、1人。

そのときの課題として、
「どう話しかければいいか分からない」
というものが出てくるかと思います。

まさか「今日は天気がいいですね」
なんて授業中に急に言われたら、
ハトが豆鉄砲食ったような顔になること間違いなしですから。笑

不自然さがなくてオススメなのは、

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簡単な頼みごとをする
==========

・小テストの範囲教えて
・字が小さくて見えないんだけど何て書いてある?
・この字って、何て読みますか?

こんな感じのことでOKです。

人間、「自分は人の役に立てている」
と実感すると嬉しいものですから、
このくらいの頼みごとされて嫌に思う人はいません。

もしこの程度で不快そうな顔したら、
そもそも友達にならない方がいいですから。

頼みごとをする、というのはオススメです。

それに人に頼みごとをすれば、
今度は相手からも頼みごとされる可能性が上がります。

それもまた、仲良くなるキッカケになるでしょう。

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頼みごとは、人との繋がりをつくる
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これは、仕事でも日常でも大事なこと。

ぜひ参考にしてみてください。

では、ありがとうございました

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